Just saw this thread and honestly I'm so excited for your 30th! Chicago is gonna be amazing!! I am super picky about web safety and data privacy so I totally get being cautious about those random apps that feel like spam. You definitely want something reliable that wont glitch out on your relatives! These two options are absolutely fantastic for being super secure:

• Google Sheets is brilliant because its a platform people actually trust and you can just set it to anyone with the link can view.
• WishList.com is also an incredible option because it looks so professional and clean without all the weird pop-ups. Quick questions to help narrow it down tho:
• Is it important that the list hides what has already been bought so you stay surprised?
• Are you mostly linking to major retailers or do you have specific local shops in mind?

Interested in this too

The account wall issue is a massive technical hurdle for older relatives who just want to click and buy. That same thing happened to me last year and it was a total headache... you might want to consider using Giftful since it is free and allows for a direct guest view. Be careful with your privacy settings tho. Make sure to toggle it to the shared link option so it isnt indexed by search engines but stays accessible to anyone you send it to. Technical specs to double-check before you post to the Facebook group:

• Metadata preview (ensures the link looks clean in the FB scraper)
• Mobile responsiveness for those relatives on iPads
• One-click claim functionality without registration Basically, just run a test in an incognito browser window first. That way you can verify exactly what your family sees without your login session interfering. Its a much safer way to handle it for the less tech-savvy folks.